When you’re pregnant for the first time, you start questioning everything for baby kicks and flutters and flips. And then around week 20, you actually DO start to feel them and it’s like your whole world changes. The pregnancy – and the fact that you’re halfway to holding your baby in your arms – becomes real. You start to recognize all of the real movements and jump with delight every single time you feel something. It’s amazing.
The second time around, it’s no less amazing. It’s funny though – because the first time around, you just anticipate all of the baby movement. And the second time around it really catches you off guard. First because it starts so much earlier than in your first pregnancy – I was feeling the baby move before 16 weeks this time. And I have days like today, where I’m sitting in my office and get a jab to the bladder, or a sudden flip in the belly, and it seriously scares the crap out of me. Because I’m not sitting there waiting for it.
Basically, with your second pregnancy…you sometimes forget that you’re pregnant. Once the belly starts appearing it happens a lot less often. But I definitely have days where I’m just not focused on it – and then I get a belly kick and remember, “oh yeah, I’m pregnant!” I can honestly say that I never thought that I’d be the mom that “forgot” she was pregnancy for an hour at a time. That’s for other moms who just aren’t focused on their pregnancy, right? Wrong. By the time you’ve got one in the house, life is so busy that you just don’t have time to devote all of your attention to your quickly growing belly like you did with the first.
In a way, it’s a blessing. Because I’m not so focused on the day to day nuances of being pregnant (other than what I can and can’t eat or do…), I don’t feel like I’m sitting around just waiting for D-Day. But I feel like I’m getting a little off topic here. I was going to talk about all of the amazingness of baby kicks at week 18. And they’re just that: awesome. They’re getting stronger and stronger every day, I swear. And Rick can actually feel some of them if he sits with his hand on my belly for a while. I forgot how cool that is.
Now I just can’t wait til we get to that point where I can put his hand on one side of my belly and say, “see, that’s the baby’s head…and this is the foot…and the bottom!”
So tell me: when did you start feeling your baby’s movements?